I Can Share

For grown-ups

Amara and Owen come to play at Mei’s house, and Mei grabs every toy. With Eco’s help she notices how her friends feel, takes turns with a sand timer, asks to trade, splits the apple slices fairly, and learns which things are for sharing and which can be just hers. Then the three friends build a tower taller than any of them could build alone.

The lesson: sharing shows you care, and playing together is more fun.

What your child practices

Reading feelingsLooking at a friend’s eyes and mouth to tell how they feel.
Taking turnsUsing a sand timer so everyone gets an equal turn.
Asking and tradingUsing words instead of grabbing: “Do you want to trade?”
Fair sharesCounting six apple slices out so three friends get two each.
Healthy boundariesToys are for sharing. Toothbrushes, cups and a special blanket can be just for you.
Rhyme and print awarenessShare / care, with every word lit up as it’s read.

What the experts say

The American Academy of Pediatrics notes that around age 3, children become more cooperative and can start to settle disputes on their own by taking turns or trading toys, though they won’t share every time. Grown-ups help most by modeling calm ways to handle conflict, reminding children that everyone gets an equal turn, suggesting simple solutions, and helping children put their feelings into words.

Pediatric psychologist Dr. Kate Eshleman of Cleveland Clinic adds that sharing becomes possible around age 3, builds empathy and social skills, and grows with specific praise and grown-ups who share every day. She advises against forcing children to share, which can cause resentment and blur healthy boundaries.

Tips for playdates

Before friends arrive, let your child put away one or two very special toys.
Praise sharing the moment you see it: “You gave Owen a turn. That was kind.”
Use a timer for popular toys, so turns feel fair and predictable.
Name feelings out loud: “Amara looks sad. She wants a turn, too.”
Toothbrushes and cups are never shared, because they spread germs.

Cleaning safety

Cleaning products are for grown-ups. Keep them out of reach of children and pets. Avoid eyes. If swallowed or in eyes, call Poison Control 1-800-222-1222.

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Talk about it afterwards

How could Mei tell that Owen felt sad?
What is a toy you like to share with friends?
What is something special that is just for you?
What could you say if you want a turn with a friend’s toy?
What could we build together?

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